Ok this is really hard to confess too. When i (f) masterbate i think of my step dad. I seem to really get off on it. I’m not attracted to him, he is very old now. But he has been in my life since I was very young, I’m in my 40s now. And no as far as I’m aware he has never touched me in any way so it’s not like trauma making me do this. I must be really messed up in the head i guess. I just...
Hello, This is connected to thread: https://www.peoplesproblems.org/showtopic/12835/i-cheat-on-my-husband which I posted about 3 years back. In short: I was cheating on my husband with a younger man. I was doing it purely for the pleasure of sex. Things back then "fixed" themselves by having my secret lover go abroad for his master's degree. I went back to my husband and altho...
26 year old male here. I have very strange symptoms which I cannot even explain properly. I don't know how do I get rid of it. I experience these symptoms most of the days which occurs sometimes a day. I have this problem since 2.5 years. Symptoms – I feel like I have to manually control my breath which makes me feel really uncomfortable. I fear I may lose control of my breathe and s...
I have a severe social anxiety even though I have been to therapy for 4 years now. I am still in school and my grades are going down because of it (I can't participate in class at all) I have only 2 friends. One goes to a different school, the other I don't like anymore. I want good grades so bad and a lot of friends and I just want to have fun. But all of this I can't have and I ...
We’ve been together for 1.5 years, he’s great, and I enjoy our time together, unfortunately I don’t think I’m in love with him. But I don’t want to finish with him because I’ll miss him, and I will have no one to talk to at all. I don’t have any friends as such, certainly no one I can confide in. I know it’s selfish, but I don’t know what else to do. I feel we are more like best ...
Hello, So this past week I thought my Saturday night was going to be peaceful and full-on me replaying Final Fantasy 13, but nope. I got on the shared desktop and saw my husband Discord up. I don't snoop, I had a hovering mom and privacy has always been a big part of my MO, but tonight I did. I wish I hadn't, but it only worsened the things I felt. I felt bile in my throat and my eyes we...
As the title says, I'm just lost and very alone. I can't make friends, I don't have anyone to talk to and noone is willing to give me a chance, even though I try my best. I'm used to drown in despair and sadness, but it's getting to a point that it's not ok anymore, even for me. I just,... I don't know if I'm even worth it. What did I do to deserve this? I...
I am in a pickel and I need help .so here is my story. I met my husband 2018 online and we got married in 2019 December but since we live in different continent's it's hard for use to see each other. When we started we are so much in love but still we didn't know each other that much but it wasn't a problem for me because I trust easy. So on 2022 he was arrested and he has bee...
I have been alone for years now. But I would really like to share a bond with a lady. However I have so much distain and self-loathing I cannot imagine anyone wanting to be with me. I'll see a lady who I really like and all I can think is that it would be terrible for her and I would ruin her life. I find myself caught in these cycles and despiring. I have tried to destroy these elem...
So I've been in a wonderful relationship with a guy I've known since we were younger. After high school we got together and it's been this way for 6 months, like a said pretty great.Weve been on multiple trips together to see concerts and stayed in hotels for days with one another. We love eachother and he supports me in a lot of mental health related struggles and I try to reciproc...
I felt really appalled by a friends lack of emotionally maturity, her disrespect for people in general, her tantrum throwing when l tried to establish boundaries, unwillingness to view any perspective but her own, her unwanted and dodgy advice 'to never explain, never apologise' and rigid opinions that were decidedly right wing, completely uninformed and bordering on conspiracy theory. ...
Hi, So I've been in a relationship for 3.5 years. Upa and downs of course. Though for a while now I've been feeling trapped/ stressed, so been doing research and I don't think I am respected and maybe with someone with a narcissistic tendencies. I feel I have been love bombed and then screamed at. My needs have not been met for the last few years, loads of little things that ...
Hi everyone, I really need help with my situationship cause all my friends don’t want me to talk about this anymore. In Sep 2021 I met this guy at the gym and we started hanging out. We didn’t really like each other and we both started dating other people. I moved abroad in Jan 2022 and right before moving, we both realised we were starting to like each orher. He started dating someone els...
Hi everyone, I am new on here. Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I am looking for advice to help my husband. I will try to make it as short as possible. My husband and I have been together for 7 years and are very happy together. The thing is he has a lot of childhood trauma. It is one of those situations where his brother was the golden boy and anything my husband ever did was wr...
My husband and I have been married 20 years and have 4 teenagers. He makes a very good living and I stay home and manage the house, kids, and everything in our lives. He works long hours and fields calls, emails, and work problems outside of his hours. He wants to spend the time he’s not at work decompressing by playing golf, sitting alone in his tv room, or hanging out with his nonmarried buddi...
My partner of 8 years went to prison almost 8 months ago. I am struggling with loneliness and trying my best to survive financially. I had found a roommate to help but that fell through in spectacular fashion. I really need someone to talk to. The alone is starting to weigh on me....
Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together wa...
Ok so im 18 years old and recently my best friend- or my only friend moved away. I stayed at our hometown with my parents even though i wanted to leave but we couldn't afford that. I was initially jealous because of that but i got over it quickly. Anyways, my main concern right now is that i feel like i am missing out on life. I go to uni but i havent really met anyone i like. I have people ...
Hi... I don't know how this works, but I am already at my wits end😔 I have no one to confide in and this is my last resort after thinking for a while. OK! Here goes. I have a friend who makes me feel as if we are dating. She prefers to only be in my room with me, watching movies and cuddle with the doors closed. Its up to the point where my parents think we're dating and they do...
Hi. On September 14, 2023, a lady from a social media app told me that she could help me with clothes sewing. We meet online on September 16, and we meet in person at her house on September 23. I had two bags that contained a box of chocolate for her family and clothes for her daughter. (I wanted to show my gratitude before she even sewed anything for me.) A Cozy Earth Bamboo Creamy...
Hey everyone, I’m a new member who could use some perspective on a situation that’s bothering me. In January this year I ghosted my two best friends, and I think I regret it but don’t really know how to proceed (I’ll call them Marcus and Angie).This isn’t the first time we’ve stopped talking; back around June of last year we got into a blowout fight when one of our 17 y/o friends go...
Hi everyone so my parents both retired however they are still arguing about money. My dad is getting state pension and he covers all the bills. My mum has previously worked for over 40 years so will be getting state pension + private pension soon. My mum's mobile phone bill is covered and her travel card is free as she is senior citizen. She demands money from my dad every every week as she s...
My bf and I have been dating since we were in our early teens, however at one point we had broken up for a 1-2 years. Before we broke up, my bf used to touch my legs a bit. I was fine with it on and off I think (I don’t really remember) but I felt really ashamed doing it, so it made me feel a tiny bit anxious. He used to stop if I said no, but he would mope a bit. Flashforward now and we’re...
Im 32. Mom of a 7-year-old beautiful girl. I recently got divorced. Thankfully, it wasn't messy like most divorces. And I have a good-paying job, so life isn't that bad for the two of us. I don't know if I feel free, happy, or sad. Either way, I'm exploring myself now. Mostly online. Talking with new people. Watching naughty videos (I didn't watch those when I was married)...
I feel intensely insecure in whatever work I'm doing, even if I'm experienced or have qualifications, it cripples me. Imposter syndrome, seems to fit my symptoms in some ways, but it also seems to overarch into feeling this way about life. Like I'm not meant to be here. It plagues me, this feeling that I don't fit in within the world, like I am failing at being human or being a...
My life experience has been fraught with people who have hurt me to my core. I am at the moment trying to cope with my biggest hurdles - fear and trust. These are big stumbling blocks in my life. I am afraid, anxious, and insecure. I have never been more acutely aware of how much I need a savior. I don't want to need one and I would do anything to save myself. But I honestly do not know how ...
I had my first love when I was 14 years old. I don’t know if that's too young to like someone. He knew me through a mutual friend and found me cute. I didn’t really talk to him, but his mom passed away around that time, so I texted him to give him my condolences when I found out. We became good friends and talked all the time, about every topic under the sun. He confessed to me after 2 we...
I'm a college freshman at a state school in my home state. When I was applying to colleges in high school, I was mainly focused on large colleges in urban environments, and I was very narrow-focused on that at the time. My guidance counselor suggested to apply to the school I go to now, it is a large school and one that was easy to get into, but I wasn't too sure about it. It is a good s...
My girlfriend of 7 years has made it obvious that she is dissapointed that I haven't bought an engagement ring and proposed. We bought a house last year and both work full time. A big part of my paycheck goes towards mortgage payments and she pays whatever she can/wants to every month to go towards the principal. (The house is only under my name and I don't ask her to help pay toward...
For the past 4 years I have raised a child like he has been my own. His mother was just a neighbor. She was having a lot of trouble with men and having to move a lot. The child was with us four days a week to help her out. Then when school started he started to live with us because she "forgot" to register him. So we got him registered in my town. He moved in with us and started school....
I am a 28 year old woman thats unemployed and i sit at home all day wondering what to do for activities, whether to improve my resume skills or go workout. I like books and ive always been told to follow my passion which is helping autistic folks or other people with disabilities. I also like art, but schooling seems to be far reach right now. I like pets as well and baking. I have some suppor...
I will try to explain the essence of the question, I suffer from Hepatitis B in severe form with delta, once again when I was at the pharmacy and bought my medicines, I asked casually if there was anything new in this area, the pharmacist said that there is such a medicine, one tablet and that's it, only it costs more than $ 100,000, but the most important thing that she did not say the name,...
I’ve been dating this girl for 2 months now. She’s awesome and beautiful and shows me the upmost respect. As soon as I am separated from her my mind goes to awful thoughts. Is this something alot of men deal with ? Or should I go consider help. I’m not an insecure person. But more worried of what will happen in my past relationships....
I (28M) want to preface this by saying that I have recently come to terms with the fact that I may have drinking issues that have developed over the past few months. I’ve been struggling with some personal issues and have been binge drinking more than I’d probably care to admit, perhaps as an outlet. I think this precipitated the incident below meaningfully, but at the end of the day, I take ...
I just turned 18 a few months ago. I didn’t even think I’d make it that far. I deal with a debilitating mental illness and I was denied any treatment for it my entire childhood.I now have access to medication, but I can’t afford it. I was supposed to go completely blind a few years ago,I haven’t, but I just lost vision in one of my eyes. There was a chance for me to have some recovery, but...